Coping with Caregiving

Caregiving is a lot of work. All you have to do is bring up “aging parents” and everyone has a story to tell.

In the best of circumstances, it’s a labor of love that is gratifying for you and for your loved one.

In the worst of times, it’s an exhausting, thankless, overwhelming burden.

There’s no question caregiving is a lot of work. And most caregivers have sacrificed tremendously to provide care and support to their spouse, parent or other loved one.

I can speak to this first-hand.

When I took over care for my mother-in-law, I didn’t even like her much.

But my husband, Curt, was losing his grip and the best alternative seemed to be to do some tag-teaming.

Luckily, at the same time I was reviewing a personal development course I’d taken years ago, and it was just what I needed to let go of my personal grudges against her, and reframe my entire experience of caregiving.

What I found was that I was able to shift my experience from exhaustion and overwhelm and resentment, to generosity, satisfaction and peace. And perhaps even more astonishing to me, I came to love and enjoy her.

In this series of articles, I’m going to give you the tools I used (and continue to use) to help make caregiving fulfilling, gratifying, and even joy-filled.

It takes something to maintain that experience… and I do slide out of it from time to time.

But when you can bring these tools to your caregiving, it can transform your entire experience.

And the more you practice using these tools, the better you’ll get at creating a powerful and fulfilling experience for yourself and your aging loved ones.

Don’t get me wrong, this didn’t work for me because at heart I’m Mother Theresa. This worked in SPITE of my crankiness, my smallness, my frustrations, my resentments, and my hard-heartedness. I am no angel.

But I’m also committed to not letting my life be LIMITED by my crankiness, my smallness, my frustrations, my resentments, and my hard-heartedness.

I really want to live a life that is fulfilling and gratifying, and if you are committed to that too–even in the midst of caregiving, then you’re going to get a lot out of this series.

Oh, yeah, it’s a SERIES of articles.

So this is going to be in depth, and I’ll be emailing a new tool every few days. And as always, please let me know what you think!

Keep your eyes out for the first installment in the series:

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